FAILURE OR AWAKENING?
So we didn’t reach our goal, or even come close to the goal for our new upcoming book on relationships which we launched on Kickstarter.
"Success And Failure Computer Keys" by Stuart Miles
However, it prompted us to write this posting because so many people are dealing with the subject of failure, especially in this economy. Do you know there are over 13 million searches on Google each month for that subject?
And, unfortunately, many people equate failures with who they are.
If you are one of those people. You are not your failures.
In fact, the word failure has such a heavy emotional charge, that we prefer to use the term that defines failure in the dictionary which simply means “unsuccessful at an act or instance.”
Looking at the greatest inventions and discoveries on this planet, you will find the inventors and scientists who made those discoveries failed, or were unsuccessful over and over again before they reached their goal.
If you are in sales, you know you have to get through all the “no’s” to reach that one “Yes.” And, look at the big companies that have blatant “failures,” like: Microsoft’s Web-TV, Life Savers soda, Coors Rocky Mountain Spring Water, Frito Lay Lemonade, Ben Gay Aspirin, McDonald’s Arch Deluxe sandwich and of course, the New Coke.
Corporations are always rolling out new products, because they constantly have products that didn’t sell. If you are in business, failing on something simply comes with the territory.
Look at the cold hard facts of your unsuccessful attempts in life
If you look at the reasons why your project “failed”, it helps you to become better and do better. They are facts which you can learn from, so how could you call that a failure? It’s important to analyze why you haven’t succeeded, and only then, think the following:
MAYBE IT WASN’T MEANT TO BE
A few people have asked us, weren’t we disappointed that we didn’t come close to our goal? No. Because when we go after any project, we always remember to go in prayer and say, “Thy will be done, not our will be done.” We then surrender the project to our Higher Power and think, either (this project) will be successful or something better will come along. And, it always does.
In other words, don’t insist that a certain thing you try has to be the way. Step back and let go and let God. This is perfect for those looking for a job, or a relationship.
It’s a good thing we all don’t always get what we want. Why? Our lives would be a mess. We don’t always know what’s good for us. In fact, we block our Higher Good, because we insist that our way is the way things have to be.
For us, our attitude, is, this: If this thing doesn’t work out…something better will come along. And guess what? Just in the last week, we had several big opportunities come our way.
And, you will have these opportunities too if you stop insisting that what you try has to work out. You are blocking your good for better opportunities and people to come. Remember, “God does not make junk,” so you are not a “failure” if your idea doesn’t “fly.”
NEVER GIVE UP
We are certainly not giving up on our book. We are writing it now. Full steam ahead.
You won’t believe this:
In fact, the day before our missed goal date, we were asked to speak at one of the top universities in the country for their special graduation ceremony in June. Guess for what graduating class? Student-parents. That’s our target audience for the book!!! Young people who are in relationships and may get stressed out raising their children and working. We want them to try to work things out in their love relationships before walking away. Or at least to effectively communicate with one another for their children’s sake, especially if they are not living under the same roof.
(we’ll let you know exact date in June and where soon).
So we got a spiritual confirmation, and you will too.
YOUR IDEAS ARE DIVINE
If you are inspired to do a project, then look at the word which means “coming from God.” Often we think we get an idea, but when we look deeply at inspiration, you will discover the root words. “In-Spire” is “In Spirit.”
So, if your idea comes from inspiration (Spirit), and not your ego, don’t give up on a project so easily. It was Divinely given to you. Keep trying.
Look around the room you are in. The objects came from someone’s inspiration. How many times did the inventor go through “failures” before they got it right?
When people don’t fail in life, it means they haven’t tried. They are trying to play it safe. Life is about growing.
YOU ARE SPECIAL
We have all come on this planet to give our unique talents and gifts. There is no one like you.
Don’t let the fear of failure stand in your way to a golden opportunity.
So if you try something, and you fail, remember motivational speaker Les Brown’s words, “If you fall down, try to fall on your back, because if you look up, you can get up.”
FORGET WHAT OTHERS SAY
Some people don’t try anything new, because if they are unsuccessful, they are worried about what other people will say.
The ones who are rooting for you to succeed, and are there for you, are the ones you want in your corner. The others…well lets just say…don’t spend any energy trying to impress them, because you can’t.
Don’t worry about what others think. You can’t control them. Just focus on you. This means giving yourself love whether you win at something or lose.
And, are people really judging your success or failures? How do you know for sure? Most people are too busy worrying about their own lives to think about yours.
Also remember this, if someone pooh-pooh’s your idea, they are often thinking that they couldn’t do it themselves, so they throw cold water on your idea.
The dream was not given to them. It was given to YOU! Keep your dreams to yourself.
We love Terry Cole Whitaker’s Book, “What You Think of Me is None of My Business.”
Go after projects for the right reasons, not to impress others. Act on inspiration. And remember to love and give yourself support. Your success is because of who you are, not what you do.
Besides, just being born you are a winner.
Keep your heart open and keep trying. But most of all, have hope and believe.
HERE ARE A COUPLE OF OUR FAVORITE QUOTES
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. ” ~Michael Jordan
AFRAID OF SUCCESS
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”